Producing a “me” in the flux of the aggregates is a way of trying to freeze reality, a maladaptive reaction to the stress of continual change.
Over time, with continued training, we see the 5-aggregates of clinging as not-self, ephemeral, and sources of suffering. With these insights, we naturally wish to cast off the aggregates and turn the mind to the Unconditioned.
As we develop more insight into the nature of reality, we find ourselves effortlessly shedding activities and interests that no longer satisfy. Over time, we come to prefer peace to raucous, fleeting sense pleasures.